As the church building is closed for the foreseeable future in an effort to control the spread of the coronavirus COVID-19, there will be no church weddings until further notice.

Weddings

Getting married at St Mary’s, Attenborough

Welcome to St Mary’s Church, Attenborough and congratulations on your forthcoming wedding.

Organising a wedding can be a daunting experience and this information has been put together to help you organise the wedding ceremony.

It explains about having your Banns read, something you may not be aware of but is a legal requirement.

You may want a simple service or a service with the choir and the church bells ringing as you walk back down the aisle.

Getting married can be a very expensive event and to help you budget we have included a list of charges for the ceremony, your Banns being read, the choir and Bells.

If after reading this information you are still unsure or would like to ask some questions, please don’t hesitate to contact us.

You can also visit the Church of England’s website: yourchurchwedding.org

Why choose a Church Wedding?

  • a holy and special building
  • hymns and religious music,
  • organ and choir, bells
  • walking down the aisle
  • help in planning the service
  • flowers and photos
  • prayers for you and God’s blessing on your marriage
  • an ongoing link with a Christian Community

Reading of Banns

You must arrange to have Banns for your wedding read. This is an announcement of your forthcoming marriage and is required by law. The Banns must be read in the church in which you are to be married and, if one or both of you lives elsewhere, in the parish church(es) where you reside.

To find your parish church(es), visit www.achurchnearyou.com and, for each address, either enter the postcode of your address or start typing your road name and district into the search box. Addresses that match will start to appear in a drop-down menu. Select the correct address and then click the arrow button to search. Your search results will show a list of churches near to you and a map showing the parish where you live shaded in orange. At the top of the list, highlighted in an orange box, will be the church(es) in the parish which cover your postcode/address. One of these will most likely be the church where your Banns will be read. Click on the church’s name to see more details about it, including the contact details. They will take your details, confirm that you live in the parish, and let you know the cost and the dates, times, and church in which the Banns will be read. It is your responsibility to arrange for these Banns to be read, and to collect certificate(s) which must be brought to Attenborough Parish Office before the date of the wedding. Without this/these certificate(s), clergy are not legally entitled to marry you.

In Attenborough church, normally Banns are read at the 10.00am service on the first three Sundays in the month prior to your wedding. If you need to organise Banns in another parish(es), the parish church(es) will inform you of the date and times when the Banns will be read.

The Fees

The fees are set on an annual basis. The following are applicable during the year 2020.

Statutory fees

Banns: £31.00
Marriage Service: £463.00
Certificate: £11.00

Local fees which you are requested to pay:

Video licence: £50.00 (refundable if no video recorded)

The following are optional depending on your requirements
Organ: £100.00
Choir *see note: £120.00       
Bells *see note: £115.00
Ireton House Lawn (for photographs): £15.00
Additional Marriage Certificates: £11.00 each

*Notes:
The Choir and Bellringers are volunteers and their attendance cannot be guaranteed. Availability may not be known until near the date of the wedding, so we apologise in advance for any disappointment which may arise. Any relevant fees will, of course, be refunded.

A video licence is required whether your video is taken by a professional or a friend. If you do not have a video, please contact the Parish Office after the service and the video fee will be refunded.

Payment of Fees

Fees should be sent to the Parish Office: cheques payable to Attenborough St. Mary’s PCC. If you prefer to pay by bank transfer, please contact the Parish Office for the church account details. Payment should be made during the month before the Banns are read – an invoice will be sent. For example, if a wedding is to take place in May then the Banns will be read on the first three Sundays in April and the wedding fees should be paid by March.

The Service

The Vicar will advise you regarding the content of the service. Please ask for advice if you intend to have an Order of Service printed. Extra copies will be needed for the clergy and the choir.

Don’t worry, you don’t have to remember or memorise anything! The minister will take you through the service, tell you when to stand, sit and sign and what to say and when. You will have a full rehearsal so you can go through everything before the day. The rehearsal usually takes place during the week of the wedding.

As the church is adjacent to Attenborough Nature Reserve, a Site of Special Scientific Interest (SSSI), please ask guests planning to throw confetti at your wedding to use only the biodegradable type.

Ireton House Lawn

Ireton House Lawn is privately owned. If you require to use the lawn for your photographs, you must ask permission first. The small fee requested is donated to the church by the owners.

Punctuality

It is important to be on time for your wedding as there may be other services scheduled, or those involved in the service may have later commitments.
Difficulties have been caused by brides being late. In the event of lateness, the clergy reserve the right to shorten the service, and the organist and other officials have the right to leave if they have other commitments.

Please make every effort to be on time so that the service is enjoyable for everyone.

Music

Please contact the Director of Music after a Sunday service. He will be pleased to advise you with regard to processional music and hymns. Usually two or three hymns are chosen. Try to find hymns that are familiar to those who will be present – and are easy to sing!  You may also wish to request some special musical item while the Registers are being signed.

Flowers

If you wish to place flowers in church, you can ask Mrs Hillary Brian or make your own arrangements to do so. Please contact the Parish Office (tel: 0115 9259602) to arrange for access etc.

If there are other weddings on the same day, you should make contact with the other couples to agree on your arrangements for flowers.

Videos and Photographs

Photographers and those wishing to film or record the service in any way should consult the Vicar before the service regarding where they may set up equipment and when it is appropriate to take photographs (ie after the signing of the Registers and before and after the service).

Ushers

You will need two (three if more than 60 guests) ushers who should be at church at least half an hour before the service. Their job is to welcome guests, to give out service sheets or hymn books, and to show guests to their pews.

Access for those with disabilities

We have done our best to make the church as accessible as possible.  Please let us know if you have any special requirements. We have toilet facilities for the disabled and a hearing loop for those with hearing difficulties.

Finally…

We are pleased to help you as you prepare for your wedding day and we will notify you of a date for a wedding preparation morning. We will also be inviting you to a special service called ‘Wedding Hymns of Praise’. This is an opportunity for you to pray about your plans for the future and help you focus on the vows that you will be taking. The service will also help you choose hymns and readings.